When I was a child I was dreaming a lot. I was drawing myself in a space rocket travelling to the Moon. I was sure that when I will turn 30 we will be living the World like „The Jetsons” do. I was also climbing trees, not because I wanted to be higher and higher, but I was curious what I will see from above, I wanted to see more, so I climbed many times same tree, but each time I was choosing different way. You know, tree changes in every season. It is actually changing all the time. Year over year it is diffrent, so it was always so exciting for me to climbe same tree, because it was never the same.
…and then I got bigger. My Indiana Jones adventures I changed to typical girls’ dreams: boyfriend, marriage, family. So when I was 22 I got married. Was this guy the love of my life? Did I know what the love is? Well, I thought yes, but … 7 years later I got divorced. Did I already mention that I’m Polish and I was raised in a strict catholic family? Well, now you can a bit imagine how hard was for me to make the decision about divorce and go through the whole process. I was abandoned and left completely alone. I’ve never in my life felt something like this. Some of the people even said to me that my marriage is my cross and I should carry it till the end of my life (·•᷄ࡇ•᷅ ) The thing is that I’m not God and I don’t want to play His role. It’s not my job to be the Savior. I’m a human, I fail, I make mistakes and in all of these my imperfections I’m perfect human being and this is good, I am good. I accept my self and I take responsibility for all my decisions. I’m happy being me. I’m happy to be the way I am. I am tremendously grateful that I got this amazing possibility to live, so I want to Do The Best of My Life. And of course I try to follow Jesus teaching, because I believe that my life would have no meaning without him. But I’m not going to live His life or somebody’s life. I live to live My Life. The thing is that, the way to live your life can take some time. My was pretty long and that’s OK. I don’t regret anything, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t look back and think, 'What was I thinking?’ ¯ _(ツ)_/¯
After divorce like most people do in such a crisis, I decided to change my life ᕙ( •̀ ᗜ •́ )ᕗ I started from 0. I quit my job, got a new haircut, tried new things and involved in new relationship. It took me next couple of years, years of struggling with my past, anxiety, my negative thoughts, hidden feelings, low self-esteem, focusing on stuffs which apparently should make me happy, but… I wasn’t happy. I was still missing something in my life, but I didn’t know what and then I read about coaching. I found it very interesting so I decided to get more knowledge about it and I found university with best coaches in Poland, studied there and let myself to be coached for a year and you know what? That was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It changed my life tremendously. It inspired me also to study psychology. But My Life Game Changer was my own psychotherapy. I faced my childhood trauma and then all the pieces of the puzzle in my life started to fit together. (。◕‿◕。)
Since then I don’t waste more time, because time is precious and this is My Time. One of my favorite polish priest FA. Jan Kaczkowski said: „Instead of always waiting for something – live today. It’s much later than you think.” I cut off all the toxic relationships I had, also this one which I had with myself what was the hardest, but I did it ◝(ᵔᵕᵔ)◜
Hi, my name is Roksana Maria Weber. You can call me Frau Weber. I’m psychologist, life coach and mentor, soon a CBT psychotherapist as well. I specialise in helping people with anxiety, burnout, and finding fulfillment in life. To be where I am now, took me pretty long way, but it was worth it.
One of the famous British athletes, Steve Backley said: „There are three types of people in this world. Firstly, there are people who make things happen. Then there are people who watch things happen. Lastly, there are people who ask, what happened?” So… which do you want to be?
If you ready to change your life too – I’m here to guide you through it.